Praise What You Want
One of the biggest challenges that I hear of time and time again is the struggle of being around other pregnant women.
You want to be happy for them, but the bigger thought that comes up is: ‘Why not me?’ and ‘When is it my turn?’
It’s painful to hear another pregnancy announcement. It’s agony to go to another baby shower. And it’s like being stabbed in the heart when you become another year older without your baby.
When we want something then our attention is on that thing.
Like when you’re looking for a new pair of shoes, suddenly you start noticing women with nice shoes and assessing what kind you want to buy. You see shoes everywhere because you’re frequently thinking about shoes.
The same is true when you want a baby. Babies and pregnant women seem to be everywhere. You become acutely aware of them.
I remember when I worked in an office before I got pregnant. All I could think about was having a baby. It was an open-plan office and one by one all the women around me got pregnant. It was really hard, especially because other people in the office would come up to me, look at the pregnant women around me and say things like ‘it’ll be your turn next!’ Little did they know that that is exactly what I wanted, but couldn’t talk about it because it was too painful and I didn’t know where to start.
Since that time I’ve done a lot of mindset work and what I’ve come to realise is that it’s important to praise what I want.
It makes sense that if I feel negative towards the thing that I want and if I shut down and close off, then I’ll push it further away.
When it comes to wanting a baby, truly celebrating and being happy for other women is an extremely challenging thing to do.
How can you honour your emotions and be true to yourself, yet still be happy and celebrate other women’s pregnancies?
How can you open your heart and praise what you want so that it comes to you?
If you can find a way to do this, then it’s a game-changer. It will not only make you feel a whole lot better, but you’ll also feel a deep sense of freedom, control and peace.
Remember to take tiny steps. This mindset shift doesn’t happen overnight. Be gentle with yourself.
Try opening your heart AND protecting yourself at the same time.
It’s ok to feel three different emotions all at once. We all do. It’s confusing and messy and doesn’t make sense sometimes.
Honour all that you are and all that you feel.